When we believe something to be true - whether it is true or not - we will behave as if it is true
A strong belief system can support positive action, and allow transformation within your life. When you believe something to be true, it is an incredible force that fuels your motivation. If your beliefs are negative, then those messages telling you that you’re not good enough, will have the opposite effect and leave you feeling stuck. An important step in the life coaching process is to build awareness of your belief systems. It is possible to choose the beliefs that will support you, and turn down the volume on the beliefs that hold you back.
We now know that the brain has the ability to adapt and change as a result of your experiences. This brain plasticity means not only can you learn things throughout your life, but you can improve your memory, focus and concentration too.
Every experience in your life will build knowledge within the brain, your childhood experiences are largely formed on an unconscious and emotional level. Once your sense of self is formed around the age of three, you start to understand how to get the responses you want from other people. Perhaps your four year old self cried when you weren’t given what you wanted. If the crying caused your parent to give in, this useful tool would have been stored away for the next time. This trial and error process would have driven an ever greater level of self-awareness, allowing the building of your toolkit. You will have realised simultaneously that if you experienced feelings you didn’t like, then you could start to close them off too.
This process of modification continues to form the basis for adult life, so it becomes your normal to suppress, modify and deny your feelings. In one way you become more sophisticated, however at the same time you are creating an entanglement of emotions and beliefs which affect your perception of reality.
With each passing day you will layer more onto these beliefs. As you layer, if you have weak foundations from childhood, bad experiences, a lack of positive re-enforcements, manipulative or absent parents, then you may develop fault lines. What about the school report that said you were lazy and distracted? These labels have a habit of sticking to your identity long after you have become hard working and focussed. Beliefs learnt during your childhood can be very powerful, and if the beliefs are negative, they can really hold you back from seeing and fulfilling your true potential. Your brain will aid the re-enforcing of your stereotypes. If you believe you are bad with money, your brain will start to point out the evidence to support your belief, drawing on memories and the world around you– because it thinks that’s what you want it to do. Thus we get into spirals of negative thinking.
Many of your beliefs are so integrated that you may have never taken an objective look at them. A quick glance isn’t always enough because on face value your beliefs may seem perfectly reasonable. Building a strong positive belief system starts with airing your beliefs which is done at a conscious level. This is a process facilitated through life coaching that brings value and enlightenment, using your neuroplasticity to it’s greatest advantage to alter your self-image. How we perceive ourselves directly affects our thoughts, and what we believe is possible for us. Using NLP tools, the subconscious mind can be re-set to align this new self-image to what you want to achieve. You will always act like the kind of person that you believe yourself to be, so it’s important to re-educate the brain of all your positive characteristics.
So in summary, Belief Systems are both a gateway and an obstacle to transformation. They are complex structures which are formed through personal experiences over many years. They can be addressed through building conscious awareness, and also by diminishing negative belief systems sitting in the unconscious using NLP. Once you have a positive belief system aligned to your own self-image, this acts as an incredible catapult to transformation.